Mental Health

3 things everyone should know about stalking

Emily Sampl — Mon, 12 Jan 2026 07:00:00 +0000

3 things everyone should know about stalking Emily Sampl Mon, 01/12/2026 - 00:00

January is Stalking Awareness Month

Popular culture, like shows and movies, can make it seem like persistence is the key to winning someone over. However, persistence can quickly turn into discomfort or fear when it’s unwelcome. Here are a few things everyone should know about stalking.

1. Stalking can take many forms

Stalking can include a variety of tactics, both in person and online, of persistent unwanted behavior or contact, directed at a specific person, which causes that person to change their routine or feel afraid, threatened or in danger.

Appropriate behaviors are: When someone says “no” and the other person respectfully leaves them alone and does not attempt to contact them again.
Concerning behaviors are: When someone says “no” and the other person continues to contact them again and again.

Examples of stalking behaviors may include:

Continually sending unwanted communications (including emails, texts, phone calls, handwritten notes, etc.).
Contacting or using other people to get information about a person or to find them.
Waiting for someone or showing up at places where they know the person will be such as their home, workplace or outside of classrooms.
Watching or following someone from a distance or spying on someone with a listening device, camera, tracking device or GPS.
Repeatedly leaving unwanted gifts, notes or other objects at a person’s residence, work, car or other location.
Catfishing or friending someone through fake accounts (to harass or trick the person).
Stealing or harming someone’s technological devices, schoolwork or other property, sentimental objects, people close to them or pets.
Entering someone’s home, lab, office or car and doing things to let someone know they had been there.
Hacking into someone’s social media, email or other accounts.

Here are some ways to identify appropriate and concerning behaviors that may prompt someone to seek additional help or support: /ova/difference-between-helpful-and-unhelpful-behaviors-relationships

2. Context is key

While stalking is often directed at a previous or current romantic partner, someone can also be stalked by roommates, friends, classmates, colleagues or someone they have never met or barely know, including matches on dating apps.

Gift giving, location tracking or sending multiple texts can be components of any relationship. It can feel really special for a roommate to bring a coffee just because they care or have friends checking an app to make sure someone got home safe. The key here is that these behaviors are wanted and help increase a sense of safety within the relationship instead of making someone feel untrusted or controlled.

From the outside, stalking may look innocuous, but to the person experiencing it, the behavior makes them feel unsafe or threatened. The context of the behavior and the impact it has on the recipient is what matters.

3. Help is available

It is worth noticing when someone else continues to contact you or your friend after they have been told “no” more than once. Consider sharing what is happening with someone else, or documenting dates and times of occurrences.

You do not have to resolve this on your own, especially when someone repeatedly shows up where they ought not be, makes indirect threats, or does not take “no” for an answer. Confidential advocates, law enforcement, and other professionals are here to help.

When someone makes direct threats or tries to harm or does harm another person or property, consider calling 911.

Stalking violates CU’s campus policies and is considered a serious crime in Colorado. CU Boulder provides a number of reporting and support options for those experiencing stalking.

Support resources for students, staff and faculty

If you or someone you know is experiencing stalking behaviors, it’s important to connect them with appropriate support resources and services.

General support

The Don’t Ignore It website provides options for seeking confidential support on and off campus, skills for helping others and reporting options related to sexual misconduct, stalking, intimate partner abuse, harassment and discrimination, and if someone’s behavior is concerning.

Confidential support

Students, staff and faculty directly impacted by incidents like this, as well as witnesses and friends, can get confidential support and/or counseling through the Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) by calling 303-492-8855, stopping by their drop-in hours (see website for dates and times) or filling out a confidential request form online. This form will only be reviewed by OVA staff—the university will not be notified, and no investigative action will take place. If you would like to get in contact with an OVA advocate counselor, be sure to include your contact information. OVA advocate counselors can help individuals explore their rights and options, make a safety plan, explore the impact of the experience, discuss reporting options, review living situations and more.

Informing the University

If you think you or a friend may be experiencing stalking, you can contact CU’s Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC). OIEC can investigate concerns or address an incident through informal resolution options. Additionally, OIEC can provide safety and supportive measures, such as no contact orders, academic support remedies, housing adjustments and more. You can connect with OIEC by calling 303-492-2127, emailing oiec@colorado.edu or filling out a report online.

Informing Law enforcement

Reporting to the police can take many forms and doesn’t have to lead to filing criminal charges. An informational or anonymous report is sometimes an option to make the police aware of the situation. Individuals may have the option to ask police to contact the person to give a verbal warning or press criminal charges. If stalking behaviors have occurred on campus, contact the CU Boulder Police Department. Otherwise, contact your local police department.

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7 tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time

Anonymous — Fri, 28 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

7 tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time Anonymous (not verified) Fri, 02/28/2025 - 00:00

While your phone may automatically update for daylight saving time, our bodies aren’t always as quick to adapt. Here are seven tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time on Sunday, March 9.

1. Update your clocks in advance

While most smartphones and computers update the time automatically, there are a number of clocks that you’ll need to change manually. Consider updating the clocks around your home, including those on your microwave, oven and car, before you go to bed on Saturday. In the morning, you’ll be relieved to know all of your clocks have the correct time.

2. Refresh your nighttime routine

As the semester gets busier, our sleep can suffer and the time change can bring additional sleep challenges. This is a great time to re-assess your sleep needs and habits and practice a little extra self-care around your sleep. Try to incorporate relaxing activities into a nightly routine that you can enjoy every night before bed. This can help signal to your brain that it’s time to start winding down for the day. For instance, you can take a shower or bath, sip on a cup of non-caffeinated tea, read a book (not on a screen) or listen to a meditation. These types of activities will help your mind and body settle down for a good night’s sleep.

3. Stick to a consistent sleep schedule

It can be tempting to stay up late or change your routine now that you have one less hour in the day. However, disruptions to sleep can affect our mood, energy levels, concentration and overall health. The closer you stick to your normal routine of getting between seven and nine hours of sleep each night, the faster your body will adjust to the time change.

Need more help? Check out these tips to help adjust your sleep schedule.

4. Avoid caffeine, alcohol and snacks before bed

Caffeine stimulates your nervous system and may prevent your body from relaxing naturally at night. Alcohol and food can also impact your sleep by disrupting your sleep hormones. Help your body relax and prepare for sleep by avoiding caffeine, alcohol and snacks later in the evening. If you are feeling hungry, keep your snacks small and light.

Still tired? Check out these tips for ways to stay awake without caffeine.

5. Take a cat nap if needed

If you’re feeling the effects of returning to standard time, it’s okay to take a quick cat nap during the day. Just be sure to limit your naps to 20–30 minutes. Longer naps can disrupt your normal sleep patterns and leave you feeling more tired overall. Nap pods around campus provide the perfect way to get a little extra rest without disrupting your day.

6. Avoid the snooze button

Did you know that hitting the snooze button in the mornings can actually hinder your ability to wake up?

Try to break the habit by setting an alarm that’s 10 minutes later than you normally would and place your phone or alarm clock out of reach. This will force you to get out of bed, which can help you jumpstart your day.

7. Soak up the sun

While adjusting to daylight saving time can be tough at first, the extra evening light can create more opportunities to soak up the sun.

The best part is that it can actually improve your mental health, help you feel more energized and reset your circadian rhythm. Plus you’ll benefit from the extra vitamin D. Just be sure to wear broad spectrum sunscreen with at least 30 SPF.

If sunshine late in the day makes it harder to sleep, consider using a sleep mask or investing in blackout curtains. This can help you relax and maintain your bedtime routine, so you can get adequate sleep throughout the spring and summer.

Resources

Peer Wellness Coaching

Get personalized support with a variety of concerns, including sleep, stress, goal setting, relationships and more.

*Available for students

Apothecary Pharmacy

Stop by Wardenburg to purchase over-the-counter sleep aids, herbal teas and more.

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Massage and acupuncture

Did you know massage and acupuncture can help with sleep, stress, anxiety and other concerns? Make an appointment at Medical Services for a massage, ear seeding or traditional acupuncture.

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Check out these tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time on Sunday, March 9.

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Mental health is... Moving your body

Anonymous — Fri, 31 Mar 2023 06:00:00 +0000

Mental health is... Moving your body Anonymous (not verified) Fri, 03/31/2023 - 00:00

Participating in regular movement (i.e. physical activity or exercise) has proven benefits for both our minds and bodies. Here are some tools to help you move your body in a safe and healthy way.

The benefits of movement

Oftentimes, when we think of movement, we automatically associate it with a sweat-inducing workout at the gym. However, movement can take a number of forms, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. In fact, all types of movement are beneficial for our bodies and minds. Here are just a few of the benefits of moving your body:

Releases endorphins and helps relieve stress
Allows us to take a break from everyday challenges and responsibilities
Helps emotions move through our bodies
Provides an outlet for self expression
Strengthens the connection we have with our bodies

Movement is a tangible and accessible coping mechanism for all abilities, fitness levels and ranges of mobility. It can also be a great outlet to meet people, build community and find support in tough times.

Evaluating our relationship with movement

While physical activity can benefit our mental health in many ways, it can also have a dark side. In some cases, we may use exercise as a way to exert control over our bodies, alter our appearance or use it to determine what we are allowed to eat. Here are a few things to consider when evaluating your own relationship with movement and exercise:

Intuitive relationship with movement:

Your routine...

Helps you feel connected with your body
Allows for rest and sick days
Makes you feel stronger, more flexible or have greater endurance
Helps you relieve stress and is enjoyable
Can move down on your priority list
Is responsive to your needs
Includes different types of movement
Is respectful of your body’s limits

Potentially harmful relationship with movement:

Your routine...

Is all or nothing
Allows for very few or no rest days
Doesn’t include breaks or time off for sick days or injuries
Must meet certain requirements to “count”
Feels like something you have to or are expected to do
Takes priority over other things in life (relationships, rest, socializing, etc.)
Causes you to feel upset or anxious if you miss a workout
Determines what you are allowed to eat based on activity level or calories burned

Making movement fun

Another way to build a more positive relationship with movement is to make it fun! Not only will you be more likely to engage in healthy movement, but it will also be easier to make it part of your routine if it’s something that brings you joy, improves your mood or helps you de-stress. Here’s how to get started:

There are so many different ways to move your body. Use these questions to figure out what kind of activities might speak to you:

Do you prefer to exercise alone or with other people?
Do you prefer indoor activities, outdoor activities or both?
What is your current fitness level?
How do you want to feel afterward (e.g. calm, energized, etc.)?

Once you’ve answered these questions, we recommend completing our Physical Activity Rating Worksheet. This worksheet allows you to browse through different types of activities and rate the ones that are most interesting to you. It’s important to remember to start where you’re at and what is comfortable for you. If an activity seems too strenuous, look for ways to adapt it to your own abilities and needs.

Physical Activity Interest Worksheet

*You can complete this PDF worksheet by filling it out on your computer, printing it or taking a screenshot on your phone.

Resources to help you get started

Whether you’re looking for something new or starting out as a novice, there are resources at CU Boulder that can help you get started.

Recreation Center
The Recreation Centers on campus offer a variety of programs, including inclusive rec, group fitness classes, small group training, personal training, outdoor trips, intramural sports, club sports and more.

BCycle
Interested in biking? Students can use BCycle for free! You can also rent a bike for the semester through the ECenter bike program.

Nutrition Services
If you have questions about nutrition, meal planning or eating healthy on a budget, Nutrition Services can help. They offer free consultations as well as one-on-one nutrition counseling services.

Student orgs
Exploring movement can be easier as a group. Buff Connect can help you find recreation- and wellness-focused groups to join on campus.

Peer Wellness Coaching
If you're unsure about getting professional support, you can work with a trained student instead. Peer wellness coaches can help you explore resources, create a routine and explore different types of movement.

Recreation Injury Care Center (RICC)
The Injury Care Center is open to all members of the Rec Center. They provide a number of services, including taping, injury assessment, referrals and more. They also have a library of preventive and rehabilitative exercises.

Physical Therapy and Integrative Care (PTIC)
Medical Services offers a number of rehabilitative services, including physical therapy, massage and acupuncture.

Student events
If you’re looking for events and programs to get involved in movement on campus, check out the Student Events page for more information.

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12 months later: Healing from the embers of the Marshall Fire

Anonymous — Mon, 19 Dec 2022 19:12:49 +0000

12 months later: Healing from the embers of the Marshall Fire Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 12/19/2022 - 12:12

Written by Stanley Ly, MA, LPC, Director, Faculty and Staff Assistance Program

Dec 30, 2022 will mark the one year anniversary since the Marshall Fire damaged and destroyed more than 1,000 homes and businesses in Superior, Louisville and Boulder County, disrupting and displacing many lives in our community. We understand that this anniversary may be difficult for many of our community members, especially as responders continue efforts to contain the Sunshine Wildland Fire outside of Boulder.

Anniversaries of difficult and traumatic events may bring up a variety of feelings or lead to intense reactions. Although it may be tempting to find ways to avoid those difficult feelings, bringing purposeful attention and self-compassion around anniversaries of traumatic events, like the Marshall Fire, can make these reactions less severe and help those affected feel more empowered.

Anniversary reactions

Anniversary reactions are usually involuntary feelings on or near the anniversary date that bring up strong reminders or memories of a traumatic event itself. These involuntary feelings may resemble fearfulness, anxiety, sadness, numbness, hyperarousal or other difficult feelings.

Physical symptoms, like stomach pain, fatigue, nervousness, lethargy or headaches, may also manifest near the anniversary date. Those who have been affected may find themselves isolating, or using alcohol or other drugs to cope.

It is also important to note that the impact of an anniversary can vary from person to person and it’s best to try not to compare the experiences of those who were impacted by the same or similar event, as it is common to have different needs and reactions, even within the same family.

For Marshall Fire survivors, the one year anniversary may bring about particular sensitivity to the wind or the smell of smoke, including smoke plumes from a chimney. They may also experience acute anxiety and grief.

What to do about anniversary reactions

Look to be proactive and intentional about taking care of yourself on the anniversary, as well as the days leading up to the anniversary.

Here are some ideas to consider:

Identify the people in your life who care about you and make plans to contact each other and stay connected.
Incorporate movement into your day, such as exercising, walking, hiking or whatever else helps your body and mind feel strong.
Try to engage in things and people that help you to feel more loved and present in the moment.
Eat nourishing foods and stay hydrated.
Practice good sleep hygiene.
Limit or avoid using substances like drugs and alcohol to attempt to nullify painful or difficult emotions.
Externalize your thoughts and feelings through activities like journaling, art or physical activities.
Practice acceptance and letting go of what is no longer possible, like wishing for a different outcome. Instead, try to focus on what is within your realm of influence and control.
Volunteer for meaningful organizations and causes.

Helping children cope

Parents should pay close attention to their children’s’ reactions and behavior around the anniversary of traumatic events. Non-adult children may not possess the emotional insight and language to identify their feelings, let alone communicate their feelings or ask for help. Children are also more likely to demonstrate their feelings through changes in their behavior.

Here are some tips to consider:

Validate and listen to children’s feelings without judgment.
Notice changes in behavior. This could be anything from changes in sleep patterns to becoming more attached or, alternatively, keeping more distance from family members or friends.
Use language children can understand, talk to them about what they may be feeling and reassure them that you are there for them.
Offer children space to express their feelings and ask questions. Be honest and reassuring.
Avoid forcing them to talk.
Do not make promises you cannot fulfill, like, “This will never happen again.”
Maintain a predictable schedule. Predictability tends to help children feel assured in what is to come next, which can help offset feelings of unease or uncertainty that trauma may invoke.
Encourage children to eat nourishing foods, stay hydrated and practice healthy sleep habits.
If you know a child will likely be affected by an anniversary, it can be helpful to communicate with their teachers if they are at an age where that would be helpful and not invasive.

Helping survivors of the Marshall Fire

You may find yourself empowered and motivated to support a colleague or friend who was impacted by the Marshall Fire.

Here are some tips:

Listen for understanding and validate their feelings. If you’re unsure what to say, try to keep it simple with statements like, “I’m here for you, and I’m with you”.
Don’t advise, provide feedback or try to make light of the situation unless you’re asked.
Not sure what to do? Ask how you can be there for them.
Invite them to participate in a shared hobby.
Don’t be afraid to check in—it’s a misconception that checking in about a potentially difficult topic can make things worse or feel invasive. Do so with genuine care and, ultimately, respect their wishes. If the outcome is not what you were expecting, take a breath, reflect upon your intent and respect their wishes. Checking to see how someone is doing is not about ourselves or our own egos.
Keep your promises. If you say you’re there for them, be there for them when called upon.

Conclusion

The Marshall Fire disrupted many community members' sense of safety and comfort, whether they were directly or indirectly affected. The wildfire uprooted families and neighbors, changing the landscape of communities, in some cases permanently. Practicing mindfulness and letting go of things that are no longer possible affords you a chance to process grief and recycle that energy into the people and things that meaningfully contribute to your life and the important lives around you.

Learn more ways to help yourself and others following a traumatic event

Support resources for staff and faculty

There are a variety of support resources on and off campus that are available to those who were directly or indirectly impacted by the Marshall Fire.

On-campus resources

Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP)

The Faculty and Staff Assistance Program is dedicated to serving the mental health needs of CU staff and faculty members. Employees can receive free short-term counseling with a licensed FSAP therapist or clinical intern. In addition to individual counseling sessions, FSAP provides relationship and family counseling services. Counseling is available in person and virtually.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term, trauma-focused counseling services for those who have experienced and/or witnessed a traumatic or disturbing event. OVA’s counselors and advocates are trained and experienced in trauma counseling and serve as CU Boulder’s trauma experts. Counseling offers clients a safe space to explore and process what they have experienced and to develop skills to move forward in their lives.

AcademicLiveCare (ALC)

AcademicLiveCare is a telehealth platform that allows CU Boulder staff and faculty to schedule medical and mental health appointments virtually. Through this program, you can see board-certified healthcare professionals from your home, office or anywhere you go. All you need is a smartphone, computer, tablet or other mobile device.

Thriving Campus

Thriving Campus is a free service that can help you connect with community mental health providers based on your interests, needs and insurance plan.

CU Boulder Fire Resources

Learn about assistance programs that are available to CU staff and faculty impacted by wildfires. Resources include financial assistance, housing and food assistance, counseling and advocacy, leave policies and accommodations.

Mobile Food Pantries

The mobile food pantry is free and open to CU Boulder students, faculty and staff, as well as community members of Boulder and Broomfield Counties. Food will be distributed on a first-come, first-served basis. Attendees will receive up to 30 pounds of food in multiple boxes.

Community resources

Boulder County Marshall Fire Recovery

Find information and resources for those impacted by the fire as our community begins the healing and rebuilding process.

State of Colorado Housing Recovery Program

The goal of the State of Colorado Housing Recovery Program is to provide additional resources for rebuilding to those who need assistance in order to remain in their communities in the wake of a natural disaster. Disaster-affected households can apply for grants or loans through this program.

Real Help Hotline

The Real Help Hotline gives you access to professional counselors who can offer assistance finding local resources or provide immediate crisis counseling. It’s a free and confidential service and it’s available 24/7. The service is available to all members covered under any of CU’s medical insurance plans.

If you need help, reach out. The number to call is 833-533-2428.

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Stanley Ly is the director of the Faculty and Staff Assistance Program at University of Colorado Boulder. In 2014, he provided psychological first aid and trauma recovery tools to individuals affected by the floods in Boulder County in 2013. Over the past 15-years, he has worked with sexual assault crisis hotlines, hospitals, jails and higher-education universities providing counseling and psychological support for individuals in Boulder, CO and surrounding areas.

The one-year anniversary of the Marshall Fire may bring up strong reminders or memories. Professional counselor Stanley Ly gives advice on what to do about anniversary reactions, helping children cope and more.

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Tips for living with roommates off campus

Anonymous — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 20:09:11 +0000

Tips for living with roommates off campus Anonymous (not verified) Tue, 07/26/2022 - 14:09

Living off campus can pose additional challenges and responsibilities that you may not encounter in on-campus housing. This can include things like rent, utilities, lawn care, parking, grocery shopping and navigating roommate issues more independently. Here are some tips to help you make the most of living off campus with roommates.

Create ground rules

While you’re not required to have a roommate agreement off campus, we highly encourage you and your roommates to create one. Even if you’re living with friends, a significant other or the same roommates as last year, it’s important to create or revisit ground rules to avoid conflict around things like rent, utilities, visitors, etc.

Here are some helpful topics to consider for off-campus students:

Rent (who owes what, how to pay/reimburse each other, due dates, etc.)
Utilities (whose names are utilities under, splitting bills, etc.)
Parking (how to share a parking space/garage, costs, permits, etc.)
Deposits (who pays and how much, reimbursement for damage, etc.)
Pets (what kinds, breed restrictions, pet rent, care, etc.)
Morning and nighttime routines (quiet hours, class times, waking/sleeping hours, etc.)
Cleanliness of shared spaces (laundry, trash, dishes, clutter, chores, etc.)
Visitors (friends, significant others, overnight guests, gatherings, etc.)
Borrowing or using each other’s things (electronics, food, clothes, toiletries, etc.)
Purchasing common items (cleaning supplies, toilet paper, food, etc.)
Preferred ways for addressing conflict
Quality vs. alone time
Substance use (partying, vaping, drinking, marijuana, etc.)

Think through your expectations, habits and routines before you move in (or soon after) and come prepared to create a shared roommate agreement. You can use this free Roommate Agreement Template from Off Campus Housing and Neighborhood Relations to help you get started. You can also get free legal advice if you have questions about your lease or rights when living with roommates.

Be a good neighbor

Living off campus comes with extra responsibilities, like being a good roommate and a good neighbor. Here are some simple ways you can be a good neighbor and avoid conflict with longer-term residents:

Introduce yourself

Introduce yourself to your neighbors. If you’re nervous about introducing yourself in person, consider filling out this free Neighbor Contact Form to leave in their mailbox or on their front door.

Follow city ordinances

Make sure you’re aware of Boulder ordinances, including occupancy restrictions, furniture and trash requirements, snow removal, yard maintenance and fireworks laws. Reviewing these rules can help you avoid citations, nuisance complaints and other forms of conflict with neighbors or law enforcement. Be sure to also follow neighborhood or community rules related to pet waste, street parking, etc. It’s also important to know that everyone listed on a lease can receive a citation for ordinance infractions, regardless of whether or not you are all present at the time of the infraction.

Make amends

Stuff happens. You may forget to take out your trash or park in front of a neighbor’s driveway (whoops). If you make a mistake that may annoy their neighbors, remember to handle the situation in person, listen to your neighbor’s perspective and consider making appropriate amends (e.g. helping with lawn care, shoveling snow, taking out trash, etc.).

Understand conflict styles

Everyone handles conflict differently, depending on the situation, their conflict style and who they’re in conflict with. However, there are some common themes that may show up in a person’s response again and again. Exploring how you approach conflict can be a great starting point for learning or refining your skills around conflict resolution.

Take our free Conflict Style Quiz to learn how you approach conflict and how your ‘default’ response may impact your behaviors or attitudes in different situations. You can also share this quiz with your roommates or housemates to start the conversation around how different people handle conflict.

Take the Conflict Style Quiz

Practice communication skills

It’s best to address roommate issues quickly before they fester. Addressing issues through texting, social media or sticky notes on the door may lead to miscommunication or increased frustrations. This is because we can’t always know how the message will be received by the other person. A simple reminder to “take out the trash” may turn into something more.

Instead, try to address any potential issues in person. It can be helpful to make a plan and think through how you can express your needs before approaching your roommate. Using “I” statements to describe how the situation makes you feel is a helpful way to start.

Here are some examples:

“I feel hurt when I’m not invited to game night because I really enjoy hanging out with you.”
“I feel frustrated when the trash doesn’t get taken out because we agreed to switch off who takes care of it each week.”
“I am upset that my coat was damaged because I can’t afford to replace it.”
“I feel hurt when my snacks get eaten by others because it’s hard for me to make it to the grocery store.”

When talking through issues with your roommates, remember to listen for understanding and ask follow-up questions during the conversation. Resist the urge to formulate a response to what the other person is saying while they’re speaking. Instead, you should be focusing your full attention on the emotions, issues and reasoning behind what your roommate is saying.

Support resources

Conflict Resolution

All students, regardless of if you live on or off campus, can visit Conflict Resolution. They can help you navigate conflicts between roommates, significant others, professors, classmates and more. They also offer free workshops, mediation and coaching sessions if you’re looking to improve your skills around conflict management and resolution.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer Wellness Coaches provide peer-to-peer support and are available to meet with students living on or off campus. They can help you navigate concerns related to roommates, relationships, stress, finances and more. Peer Wellness Coaches can also help you set goals, connect with additional resources and create self-care plans.

Off Campus Housing & Neighborhood Relations (OCHNR)

OCHNR is here to help students with all aspects of living off campus, from searching for an apartment and roommate, understanding Boulder housing options and providing free lease reviews with our staff attorney, to navigating roommate disagreements, understanding Boulder ordinances and advocating for tenant rights.

Center for Inclusion and Social Change (CISC)

CISC works with LGBTQ+ students living on and off campus. They can provide information on gender-inclusive residence hall programs, gender-neutral facilities and more. Their office can also help students find inclusive housing and roommates that will be welcoming and supportive.

Support for potentially harmful living situations

In some cases, you may feel like you are stuck in a traumatic, toxic or harmful living situation. Harmful behaviors or experiences can include harassment, stalking, partner abuse, sexual or physical assault and hazing, to name a few. The Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) can provide additional support to help you explore your rights and options, make a safety plan, get medical treatment if needed, discuss your living situation and more.

Get connected with OVA by calling 303-492-8855, emailing assist@colorado.edu or filling out a confidential request form online. Submission forms are only reviewed by confidential OVA staff and will not be shared with the university. If you would like to be contacted by an OVA advocate counselor, please be sure to include your contact information on the form.

Learn more about OVA

Living off campus can pose additional challenges and responsibilities that you may not encounter in on-campus housing. Here are some tips to help you make the most of living off campus with roommates.

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Mental Health Is... Caring for yourself

Anonymous — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 16:00:13 +0000

Mental Health Is... Caring for yourself Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 04/07/2022 - 10:00

After a long semester, it can be hard to stay motivated around self-care. Here are some simple ways you can continue to practice self-care, even in times of high stress.

Brush up on the basics

When life gets stressful it can be easy to forget to address our most basic needs. Take some time to reflect on what you need most throughout the day. Here are some examples you can use to get started.

Hunger

If you forget to eat, feel hungry throughout the day or struggle with grogginess, it may be a good idea to pack some snacks with you when you come to campus. You may also want to carry a water bottle and set reminders to eat and stay hydrated. This will reduce the chances that you forget or simply put it off.

Sleep

Do your best to avoid pulling all-nighters when preparing for finals. Instead, try to get seven to nine hours of sleep each night. Adequate sleep helps encode memories, which can help you more easily remember what you studied during the exam. If you’re feeling tired during the day, you can take a quick 20-minute nap without affecting your nighttime sleep schedule. Avoiding caffeinated beverages later in the day can also help you sleep more soundly at night.

Movement

Staying active and moving our bodies not only helps promote physical health, but it can also be a great way to relieve stress. Make time for movement by taking a walk outside, stretching, going to the Rec Center or playing a game with friends on Farrand Field. Don’t worry, you don’t have to commit to a full workout. 10 to 15 minutes of activity is a good starting point.

Socializing

Whether you consider yourself to be an introvert or extrovert, socializing and spending time with people you care about is important for your mental health. Try to schedule time with friends each week, even if it’s a brief coffee break or a short walk across campus together. Remind your friends that even if you all feel overwhelmed, you can decompress together.

Be ‘unproductive’

Pressure to perform well, meet expectations or reach certain milestones at the end of the semester can send us into overdrive when it comes to our productivity. However, being ‘unproductive’ has benefits, too. For instance, downtime can help us relieve stress, avoid burnout and better retain information. It can also help us become “unstuck” if we are having a hard time processing information or solving a problem.

Try to carve out some time each day to do something completely unrelated to school, work, chores or other responsibilities. If you have an hour, great! If not, 15 to 20 minutes may feel more manageable right now. It can be helpful to come up with a list of activities you can do. For instance, you may want to read a book for pleasure, listen to a new podcast series, cook your favorite meal, visit a new hiking spot or enjoy a long bath to unwind. Keeping your list handy will help you easily choose activities without feeling even more overwhelmed.

Take a break from social media

Stress builds on stress. If you find yourself doom-scrolling, reading unpleasant news stories or focusing too much of your time on social media, it may be time to take a break (at least until finals are over). Try deleting social apps from your phone, turning off app notifications or simply moving your social apps off of your main home screen.

While these tactics may help you feel less distracted while studying, it’s also important to remember that the benefits go beyond productivity. Instead of thinking about how much time you’ll gain, focus on the peace of mind you may experience by limiting the amount of time, energy or brain power you spend on social media every day.

Set healthy boundaries

The end of the semester is a critical time to be honest with yourself about what you can and can’t do. This may not be the best time to take on additional work or responsibilities beyond what you already have on your plate. If things come up, practice saying “no” and being protective of your physical, emotional and mental resources so you can keep the commitments you’ve already made to yourself and others. It’s also important to remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with the resources, energy and time that you have.

Find a study spot

Being cooped up in your room studying can get old. Try to change up your scenery by testing out different study spots on campus. One way to narrow down your options is by asking yourself questions like:

Do you prefer to study solo or in groups?
Do you want to have snacks, drinks or vending options nearby?
Do you need an outlet?
Does your college or school offer study areas that require special access?
Do you need access to a printer?
What kind of noise level can you tolerate?

These questions can help you find a study spot that works best for you. Take your time to explore your options. Try to keep a few spots in mind in case one space runs out of room or becomes overcrowded closer to finals.

Change your scenery

Spending time outside can improve our mood, stress levels and overall mental health. Make time to study, play or socialize outside if possible. Just remember to practice sun safety by staying hydrated, wearing sunscreen (SPF 30 or more) and opting for a hat or sunglasses to protect your eyes from UV rays.

Celebrate small victories

Allow yourself to bask in the glory of small victories. Whether you’ve been studying for one exam or several, it’s important to acknowledge the progress you’ve made. Here are a few ways you can celebrate:

Eat a nice dinner. Cook your favorite meal or order something special from your favorite local restaurant.
Take a day off. Give yourself a day off to relax and recharge, whether that means watching shows or movies or spending the day outside.
Do something for yourself. Congratulate yourself on your progress with a small treat, such as an extra special coffee order.
Practice gratitude. Take some time to express gratitude for those who helped you study or supported you through finals (including yourself!).

Reach out for support

For a full list of support resources, events, study spaces and tips for finals week, visit colorado.edu/finals.

Let’s Talk

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provides free drop-in services through Let’s Talk. Counselors are available in person and online to help provide insight, solutions and information about additional resources related to academics, stress, anxiety, substance use, relationships and more.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer Wellness Coaching is a free service available to students to help them set and achieve wellness goals. Peer wellness coaches are familiar with a variety of topics, including stress, relationships, academics, self-care, sleep, finances and more.

Free Finals Week at The Rec

Stop by the Rec Center to enjoy free activities like ice skating, bouldering and fitness classes!

Buff Boxes

Order a free Buff Box to get free health and wellness supplies delivered to your residence hall, including stress and sleep supplies, cold and flu supplies or safer sex supplies. Living off campus? You can also pick up free supplies at the Wellness Suite on the third floor of Wardenburg Health Center.

Disability Services

Disability Services provides academic and testing accommodations for students with disabilities, temporary medical conditions and other needs. They also offer free workshops that are open to all students.

Figueroa Wellness Suite

The Wellness Suite is a great place to rest and reset. Whether you need a nap, want to pick up free health and wellness supplies, or if you just want to find a quiet place to study, the Wellness Suite provides a relaxing environment for students.

Writing Center

The Writing Center provides free one-to-one tutoring sessions with professionally trained writing consultants, individualized guidance and feedback, as well as time-saving skills for writing and presentation projects. The Writing Center is available to all CU Boulder undergrad and graduate students for free.

Tutoring services

CU Boulder offers a wide variety of tutoring services. Some are specific to classes, departments or groups of students, while others are available campus-wide. Many of these services are free to use. If you aren’t sure where to begin, be sure to check your syllabus, and ask your professor or course assistant for help and referrals.

Grade Replacement Program

This program allows degree-seeking undergrad and graduate students to retake a course in which they earned a low grade in an attempt to improve their cumulative GPA.

Whether you feel ready or not, finals are coming quickly. Here are some ways you can practice self-care even in times of high stress.

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Staff and faculty: Tips for talking about suicide

Anonymous — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 06:00:00 +0000

Staff and faculty: Tips for talking about suicide Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 03/30/2022 - 00:00

The end of the semester can be a difficult time for students. Added pressure to perform well, meet expectations or reach certain milestones can negatively impact the mental health of many. College students are at increased risk for suicide, especially during high-stress times of the year. Talking about suicide, even if the conversation is brief, can encourage people who are at risk to seek support.

Here are some tips for staff and faculty who are concerned that a student may be struggling or thinking about suicide.

Know the warning signs

While suicides may take us by surprise or feel unexpected, there can be subtle or more obvious signs that precede suicidal behaviors. Knowing potential warning signs and ways to intervene can dramatically reduce the risks of suicidal behaviors.

Here are some signs to watch out for:

Sudden changes in academic performance (e.g. cutting class, missing assignments, etc.)
Being unable to sleep or sleeping all the time (including in class)
Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide
Neglecting their appearance or hygiene

Increased alcohol or other drug use
Withdrawing from friends, family or peer groups
Engaging in violent or self-destructive behaviors
Expressing feelings that life is meaningless or there is no reason to live
Acting recklessly or engaging in risky behaviors

Feeling desperate or trapped, like there is no way out
Feelings of hopelessness
Noticeable decline or worsening of mental health conditions (e.g. depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, etc.)
Giving away possessions

If you notice these warning signs, there are ways you can support students and help them connect with resources.

Red Folder is a great tool for faculty and staff that walks you through the steps of recognizing concerning behaviors, reaching out to students and referring them to additional resources.

Share your concerns

If you’re concerned about a student and feel comfortable talking with them, gently share what you’ve noticed and your desire to help. Try to arrange a time to meet with them privately to discuss your concerns. It can be helpful to provide concrete examples of behaviors that you’ve noticed. For instance, you may say “I’ve noticed you’ve been struggling to keep up with assignments recently” or “I’ve noticed that you haven’t been spending as much time with others in class.” Acknowledging their distress can help open the door for conversation.

If you’re not comfortable approaching a student with your concerns, consider filling out an online referral for Student Support and Case Management. Their office can reach out to students to follow-up and provide additional support. You can also reach out to the health and wellness liaisons within your college for additional support.

Ask the question

When talking with students, don’t be afraid to ask directly about suicide or self-harm. Contrary to what we may think, talking about suicide directly isn’t going to plant the idea in their head. If they have been thinking about suicide or self-harm, asking them about it can be a relief and an opportunity for them to talk about it more openly.

When you ask, express your care by saying something like “I’m asking because I care. Are you thinking about suicide?” If they aren’t, they’ll let you know. Asking students, even if they aren’t thinking about suicide, lets them know that it’s okay to talk about it in the future if things change. If they are thinking about suicide, it’s likely time to help them connect with mental health resources on campus.

Listen

Listen to students without judgment, and resist the urge to give them advice. It’s important to understand our students’ pain and what they’re experiencing. Keep in mind that suicidal behaviors are often short-term and situation-specific. In many cases, suicide ideation is an attempt to control or manage significant pain. When the pain subsides, suicide ideation often dissipates with it. However, understanding the source of our students’ pain (e.g. academic pressures, mental health concerns, etc.) can help us better support them and connect them with resources.

Manage your emotions

Talking about suicide can be challenging, especially if a student says they are considering committing suicide. It’s important to notice your own emotional response and seek support if needed. If students pick up on our own distress or anxiety when discussing the topic of suicide, they may feel like we are not able to handle what they have to tell us and may shut us out. Instead, try to reiterate your care and concern. Let them know that you are there for them and you want them to be okay.

Instill hope

Let students know that there are resources available to help them and things can get better. Here are some on-campus resources that are available to help students who are struggling with mental health concerns or thoughts of suicide.

 If you or someone you know is threatening to imminently kill or harm themselves, call 911 and request emergency mental health support.

Resources for students

Welfare checks

Welfare checks can be instituted by any police department if you’re concerned about the health, safety or welfare of someone. Be prepared to give the exact address (residence hall and room number if on campus) as well as the reason for your concerns.

On campus: CUPD 303-492-6666
Off campus: Boulder Police 303-441-3333

Emergency/urgent resource

Crisis services

If a student is in need of urgent or same-day support, Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provides crisis support 24/7. Call 303-492-2277 to connect with a triage counselor.

Urgent resource

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)

SSCM provides support for students throughout their time at CU Boulder. They are here to help students identify issues and appropriate resources. They also work collaboratively with students to develop an action plan.

Urgent resource

Let’s Talk

If a student is not currently suicidal but may be struggling, Let’s Talk is a great way to get connected with support services. They can meet one-on-one with a counselor for a confidential consultation that can help them gain insight and connect with additional resources on campus.

Workshops

If a student is not currently suicidal but may be struggling, workshops are a great way for students to learn coping skills related to anxiety, stress and other painful emotions. Workshops are available throughout the week and are covered by the student mental health fee.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term counseling services for students, grad students, faculty and staff who have experienced a traumatic, disturbing or life-disruptive event.

Resources for staff and faculty

Faculty and Staff Assistance Program

FSAP provides free short-term counseling to CU Boulder staff and faculty. All FSAP providers are trained as generalist counselors and are equipped to help you navigate a wide range of personal- and work-related issues.

Available to staff and faculty

Crisis services

If you or a colleague is in need of urgent or same-day support, call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 or 800-273-8255 (English) or 888-628-9454 (Spanish).

Available to staff and faculty

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

Available to staff and faculty

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)

SSCM provides individualized support to students. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

Student referrals

Health and Wellness liaisons

CU Boulder colleges and schools have access to dedicated teams of liaisons from Counseling and Psychiatric Services, the Office of Victim Assistance and Health Promotion.

Student referrals

Red Folder

Red Folder provides information on how to recognize signs of distress, tips for responding and how to refer a student to the appropriate campus resources.

Student referrals

The end of the semester can be a difficult time for students. Here are some tips for staff and faculty who are concerned that a student may be struggling or thinking about suicide.

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Tips for navigating and coping with grief

Anonymous — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 20:23:19 +0000

Tips for navigating and coping with grief Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 03/23/2022 - 14:23

Grief encompasses all of the ways we respond to the loss of someone or something that is important to us. Grief manifests in different ways for different people, and it’s important to remember that there is no one ‘correct’ way to grieve. Whether you or someone you know is grieving, here are some tips that can help you navigate and cope with grief.

Life events that can trigger grief

There are a variety of events that can trigger grief. Sometimes, losses are concrete, such as when a loved one passes away. Other losses may feel more ambiguous, such as when we move to a new place, change majors or break up with someone.

Here are a few examples of life events that can trigger grief for students:

Death and dying

The death or impending death of a friend, family member, significant other, pet or loved one.

Serious illness

Coping with a terminal or life-altering illness or the illness of a loved one.

Divorce or separation

Life changes, like the divorce or separation of one’s parents, or other serious family conflicts.

Academic challenges

Students may fall short or not reach the level of academic success that they expected. This can include things like test scores, GPA, admission to a specific degree program or other academic milestones.

Relationship struggles

Coping with relationship problems from general conflict to abusive behaviors. This can also encompass the end of interpersonal relationships, including friendships or romantic partnerships.

Career challenges

Students may grieve the loss of their ideal career, struggles securing a job after graduation or difficulties related to financial security or debt repayment.

What does grief feel like?

People who are grieving may experience a wide range of reactions and emotions. Feelings of grief can be intense or subtle. It’s also normal for feelings of grief to surge and subside over time. Here are some common symptoms that people experience during the grieving process:

Remorse: A grieving person may become preoccupied by what they could have done differently to prevent a loss from happening or to alter the outcome of an event.
Anger: Individuals may feel a sense of injustice or powerlessness over their situation, which can lead to feelings of anger or vengeance. Loss can also threaten beliefs that we hold about ourselves or the world around us, which can lead to feelings of confusion or regret.
Denial/numbness: Sometimes people need to distance themselves from significant losses or pain. This can show up as denial or numbness around a particular event or loss.
Feeling down: After a loss, people who are grieving may experience feelings of loneliness, isolation, sadness or hopelessness. Some people may retreat or withdraw from social groups after a loss or lose interest in activities they once enjoyed, especially if they are associated with their loss.
Physical symptoms: Emotional stress and grief can also cause a variety of physical symptoms, including headaches, nausea, stomach pains, changes in appetite, insomnia and other ailments.

Learn more about symptoms of grief

Supporting someone who is grieving

Grief is often misunderstood, and it can be a tricky subject to approach, especially if someone has experienced a loss. However, there are ways that we can support ourselves and others through the process.

Ways to take care of yourself while grieving…

Take care of your basic needs. Rest, eat well and stay hydrated. For some, it may also be good to embrace physical contact (like hugs) as part of the healing process. Get more self-care ideas.
Take time to grieve. Grief can sneak up on us when we least expect it. Try to dedicate time to grieving. This will give you a structured way to get it out, while enjoying moments of peace during other times of the day.
Connect with others. Surround yourself with people who will let you experience your feelings, whether you need to cry, sit in silence or tell someone your story again and again.
Channel your feelings. Find an outlet for your feelings. Journaling can be a great way to express and externalize everything that is going on inside of you. You may also find talking to be helpful. Find what works best for you and dedicate time to working through your feelings.
Be patient. Your grief may take longer to process than you or others expect. Be patient with yourself as you work through your feelings and show yourself kindness as you move through this process.

Ways to support someone who is grieving…

Reach out. Grief can feel isolating, so it’s important to reach out to our loved ones who are grieving. Check in with them and let them know you’re thinking about them.
Help out. Offer support by helping out with household chores, meals, planning social events or other tasks that may feel overwhelming.
Listen to them. Take time to listen to your loved one and let them express their emotions. Avoid sharing judgment or advice. Instead, try to simply be there for them.
Don’t avoid the subject. If someone lost a person they were close to, don’t worry about avoiding the person’s name or bringing them up in conversation. Remember that the loss of someone doesn’t mean they should be forgotten.
Encourage them to seek support. If someone is struggling with grief or depressive feelings, encourage them to seek support. Campus resources are available for students, staff and faculty.

Resources

Student resources

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)

CAPS offers short-term counseling, consultation services, workshops, community referrals and crisis support for CU Boulder students and graduate students.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

Peer Wellness Coaching

Health Promotion

Health Promotion offers free weekly programs that focus on self-care, community-building, stress management and more. Topic areas change weekly and events are open to all students.

Staff and faculty resources

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Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP)

FSAP provides free short-term counseling for CU Boulder employees both in person and online.

Wellness events

FSAP offers a variety of free wellness events throughout the semester that focus on self-care, community care, personal growth and support.

Grief encompasses all of the ways we respond to loss of someone or something that is important to us. Here are some tips for navigating and coping with grief.

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Mental Health Is... Finding your break

Anonymous — Mon, 28 Feb 2022 16:47:50 +0000

Mental Health Is... Finding your break Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 02/28/2022 - 09:47

As we approach the end of the semester, many of us may be experiencing high levels of stress, whether you're graduating, looking for a job or internship or thinking about your future. Summer break can provide us with a chance to practice self-care, find some relief and focus on ourselves. This may look different for everyone, whether you’re planning to spend time with family, take a trip or stay close to home. No matter what your plans are, here are some ways to take care of yourself and find your break.

Identifying stress

What is ‘stress’?

Think of stress as your ‘fight or flight’ response.

When you are facing demands, expectations or other pressures in life, stress helps our bodies kick into high gear. In fact, it can help us feel more motivated, focused and energized.

However, if you’re stressed out all of the time, it can also cause you to feel run down. Experiencing chronic stress can give us a good indication that something is ‘off’ in our lives. Taking some time over break to address stress can help us feel better when we return to campus to finish out the semester.

How to identify stress

Stress manifests in different ways for different people. Check out the examples below to see how stress may affect you.

Physical signs

Aches or pains
Grinding teeth
Muscle tension
Weight fluctuation
Headaches
Tiredness
Constipation, diarrhea
Nausea, upset stomach
Changes in sleep

Psychological signs

Mood swings
Angry, frustrated, irritable
Lack of motivation
Teary
Feeling distracted
Memory lapses
Negative thinking
Worry, racing thoughts
Withdrawing socially

Other signs

No time for relaxation or pleasurable activities
Poor time management
Avoiding tasks, procrastination
Inability to concentrate or make simple decisions
Self-neglect, change in appearance or basic self-care

If you experience one or more of these symptoms, it may be time to make meaningful changes that can help reduce your stress.

Note: If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis or needs urgent, same-day support, call 303-492-2277 to speak with a mental health provider.

Tips for coping with stress

Prioritize harm reduction strategies

While alcohol and other substances can feel good in the moment, they don’t usually help when it comes to managing chronic stress. This is because substances tend to cover up or mask our feelings. While this can feel good in the moment, relying on substances for relief longer term can lead to additional stress or other issues.

If you choose to drink or use substances during this time, it’s important to take care of yourself. Here are some strategies you can use to stay safer and feel more in control over your night:

Stay hydrated by drinking water or switching between alcohol drinks and water
Avoid mixing alcohol and other substances, including prescription medications
Eat a snack before going out or while drinking
Make plans with friends and stick to them
Set a limit for yourself, enlist someone to help you stay accountable
Know the signs of alcohol poisoning and drug overdoses
Call for help in case of an emergency
Carry naloxone (available for free from the Wardenburg pharmacy)

Learn more about substance use and connect with resources

Get outside

Break is a great time to venture outside! Whether you enjoy walking, hiking, biking or snowshoeing, there are plenty of ways to enjoy the great outdoors. Just remember to keep these tips in mind:

Pack water. Higher elevation can cause you to become dehydrated more quickly. As a rule of thumb, drink at least one liter (32 oz.) of water every two hours while hiking. If you’re bringing a dog with you on the trail, be sure to pack extra water for them as well.
Wear sunscreen. Higher elevation can also increase your chances of a sunburn because there is less atmosphere to protect you against UV rays. Wear an SPF 30+ sunscreen and reapply every one or two hours while hiking. Hats and sunglasses can provide you with additional protection.
Check the weather. Look at the forecast before heading out, and keep in mind that weather in Colorado can change in an instant. Be prepared for less-than-ideal weather by dressing in layers. This will allow you to cool off when it gets hot and bundle up if it rains or gets colder at higher elevations.
Use the buddy system. Accidents are more common than you might think, so it’s a good idea to bring a buddy with you, especially if you’re spending time on less frequented trails. If you do decide to go it alone, tell someone where you’re going and how long you expect to be gone. Have a plan in place in case they don’t hear from you. That way if something does happen, they will be able to call for help.

If you want to improve your relationship with movement or find physical activities that interest you, Health and Wellness Services can help!

Learn tips and connect with resources for healthy movement

Connect with support resources

Whether you need to decompress from a long semester or find additional support, there are campus resources that can help.

Support services

Health Promotion Programs

Health Promotion provides weekly events and workshops to help students learn more about self-care, stress management and additional resources.

They also provide free health supplies. Stop by the third floor of Wardenburg Health Center to pick up cold care, safer sex, sun care and other supplies.

Let’s Talk*

Let’s Talk is a free service where CU Boulder students can meet for an informal, brief and confidential consultation with a counselor. CAPS is offering Let’s Talk both in person and virtually.

*CAPS will have adjusted hours and services over break.

Workshops*

Join weekly workshops to develop coping skills related to stress, anxiety and other distressing emotions. Workshops are also available to help students live healthy, balanced lifestyles.

*CAPS will have adjusted hours and services over break.

Crisis support

If you or someone you know needs urgent or same-day support, please call 303-492-2277 for 24/7 support. Calling ahead allows CAPS providers to triage your concerns and address them more quickly.

Free naloxone

Naloxone (brand name Narcan) can help temporarily reverse an opioid overdose. Free naloxone is available through:

Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC)

The CUCRC provides meetings and support groups, recovery-focused housing, events and activities, peer support and more for students in recovery or interested in pursuing recovery from drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, self-harm, other addictions and unwanted behaviors.

Medical Services

Medical Services specializes in college health and is available to all CU Boulder students, regardless of your insurance plan. Students can visit Medical Services for primary care, sexual and reproductive health, physical therapy, nutrition and more. If you're headed out of town, you can also call the NurseLine at 303-492-5101 to connect with a registered nurse.

Spring break can provide us with a chance to practice self-care, find some relief and focus on ourselves. No matter what your plans are, here are some ways to take care of yourself and find your break.

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Mental Health Is... Connection

Anonymous — Wed, 25 Aug 2021 06:00:00 +0000

Mental Health Is... Connection Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 08/25/2021 - 00:00

Making friends as an adult can be challenging. However, having a strong desire to connect, make friends and socialize is an experience we all share. Check out these tips to learn how to connect with others in a meaningful way.

Why connection matters for our mental health

While it may feel challenging, finding meaningful connections is important for our mental health. Socializing with our peers, mentors, friends, family and community can improve a number of areas of mental health. In fact, those who are closely connected to their friends and family tend to have lower rates of depression and suicide (including suicidal thoughts), higher self-esteem, more empathy and more trust in others. Additionally, feeling connected gives us a sense of belonging, support and purpose throughout our lives.

Here are some tips that can help you make meaningful connections now, throughout college and into the future.

1. Ease your expectations

Sometimes when we are in search of new friends, we tend to expect one person to have it all. However, it’s important to keep in mind that it’s not always realistic to expect a single person to meet all of our needs. For example, you may have a friend who is great to study with or watch sports with, while another may be better as a confidant. Managing expectations around what people are able to bring to a friendship (or relationship in general) can help us create a more robust social network that we can rely on for different things.

It’s also important to ease your expectations with yourself. Many of us may feel pressured to make as many friends as quickly as we possibly can, and that may not always be possible. Instead, remember that it’s okay if it takes time to build relationships or find the right friend group. Show yourself compassion throughout the process, and know that relationships can take practice to develop.

These practices apply in real life and on social media, too. In most cases, our social feeds only capture the highlights of someone’s life and what you see online doesn’t always show the full picture. As you scroll through your social accounts, it’s important to avoid making comparisons between yourself and the people you follow. Consider hiding or unfollowing content that impacts your mood, self-image, confidence or mental health.

2. Take advantage of opportunities for small talk

There are plenty of reasons to not like small talk. For one, it can be uncomfortable or awkward, especially if you’re on the shyer side or don’t know someone that well. However, it also offers a surprising number of benefits when it comes to forming friendships. In fact, small talk plays a significant role in paving the way for more meaningful connections.

Whether we’re talking to a casual acquaintance or someone new, small talk can help us build up to more meaningful conversations and connections. For instance, asking someone about their weekend plans may help inform us about their hobbies or interests. These insights can be helpful in moving the conversation forward. Take advantage of these moments to bond over common interests or learn more about someone by asking follow-up questions.

Small talk can also be beneficial for those of us who may feel out of practice. In many ways, it’s the perfect opportunity to practice conversation skills. Most people expect small talk to be awkward or challenging, so it’s the perfect time to test out subjects, questions and other strategies to get to know someone without the pressure of a formal conversation.

3. Work with discomfort

When we meet new people, it’s normal to feel nervous, awkward or anxious. Learning to work with and overcome those feelings is key to allowing ourselves to meet new people and develop relationships.

Physical tension: If you experience physical discomfort, practice grounding techniques such as reporting factual information about the present moment. In your head, state your name, age, today’s date, your location and other details to bring you back to the present moment.
Nervous thoughts: If you struggle with nervous or worried thoughts, consider ways that you can acknowledge and recognize these thoughts without acting on them. One way to do this is to separate yourself from your thoughts through labeling. For instance, if you are feeling concerned that the other person may not like you, try labeling it as, “I am having the thought that this person may not like me.” Separating yourself from your thoughts can be a good reminder that just because you’re having the thought doesn’t make it true. It’s okay to be yourself and let others get to know the real you.

Additionally, if you’re still experiencing stressful thoughts related to COVID-19, it can be helpful to plan meet-ups in a way that makes you feel safe and comfortable. For example, you may feel better hanging out outside or limiting your group size. Creating an environment that helps you feel more at ease is key, as it allows you to focus more energy on getting to know the people you’re with instead of focusing on those thoughts.

4. Schedule time to be social

Balancing school, work and social activities can be difficult. Setting clear boundaries for yourself can help you have a meaningful social life alongside your other responsibilities.

Scheduling time throughout the week to do something social can be helpful, especially if it feels like you have limited time or there is a lot on your plate. Whether you’re interested in joining a fitness class, book club or student organization, getting involved on campus and becoming a regular is a great way to meet new people and form friendships. In fact, the more you show up, the easier it may be to connect with other people who are regulars as well.

It’s also important to remember that it’s okay to seek out social opportunities without feeling pressured to create deep connections. Sometimes, it’s just as nice to attend an event or hang out with others for an hour before returning to your normal routine. Thinking about activities and events this way can also help alleviate the pressure that comes with trying to make friends as quickly as possible.

5. Try something new

There is no “right” way to make friends. Trying out different approaches to meet people can help you find what works best for you. Here are a few ideas to try:

Group activities

While it would be nice to get to get to know people individually, group activities can be a great alternative. For example, inviting someone to a group chat may feel less intimidating than directly asking for their number. Additionally, socializing in small groups can help reduce the pressure to engage with someone one-on-one.

Everyday conversations

Practice conversation skills during everyday interactions. This can help you feel more comfortable making conversation (and keeping the conversation going). For instance, it may be helpful to practice with a cashier or customer service representative. Ask them questions about their day and allow yourself to briefly connect.

Conversation starters

Think through some things to talk about or bring up in conversation. It may be helpful to watch others, read or increase your range of activities and experiences. Having a few go-to conversation starters can help you learn more about people and connect with them.

Share strategically

As we begin to develop new relationships, it may be better to keep our stories and answers short. It can be tempting to give details about ourselves and go in-depth when answering questions. However, it’s important to remember that giving too much information too soon can be overwhelming for some people. Keep in mind how much the other person is sharing with you and what kind of relationship you have.

Social apps

Apps can be a great tool to help you talk and get to know people in a low-pressure setting. Bumble BFF can help you find platonic connections, whether you’re looking for a workout buddy, roommate or new best friend. Patook allows you to make platonic connections with people nearby who share common interests (no flirting allowed). Finally, MeetUp is a free service that organizes online groups that host in-person events for people based on location, hobbies, causes and more. They also allow you to start groups of your own!

Connect with other Buffs and resources

There are a number of resources available at CU Boulder that can help you feel more connected, whether you’re looking to join a student group, attend social events and activities or find additional support.

Student groups and communities

There are a number of student groups on campus that can connect you with people who have similar majors, interests and hobbies. Here are just a few:

Student organizations: You can explore student organizations, leadership opportunities and upcoming events through BuffConnect.
Sport Clubs: If you’re interested in competing in intercollegiate sports, Sport Clubs is a great way to get involved. CU has over 30 teams for mens, womens and co-ed sports.
Peer mentor programs: There are a number of peer mentor programs through colleges, schools and programs at CU Boulder. These programs are designed to help students connect and support each other during their time at CU. You can also meet with a Peer Wellness Coach for more generalized support.
Living experiences: If you live on campus, there are a number of ways to get involved in your residence hall, including Res Hall events and living experiences.
Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC): If you’re currently in recovery, interested in recovery or are a recovery ally, the CUCRC is a great place to get connected with others through free meetings, events and activities.
Fraternity & Sorority Life: CU Boulder has a vibrant fraternity and sorority community with 28 active chapters.

Social events and activities

If you’re looking to meet new people, make friends or just hang out for a few hours, campus events and activities are a great way to get connected. Here are a few options to check out:

Rec Center: The Rec Center offers a variety of free events and programs in addition to student trips, classes and workshops for all ability levels.
Health Promotion: Health Promotion offers weekly wellness programs to help students, connect, practice self-care and work toward their wellness goals.
Student events: Student Affairs hosts hundreds of free events on campus throughout the semester, including Fri-YAY Nights, Buffs After Dark and more!
Volunteering: If you’re looking for a way to get involved in a specific cause or give back to the community, the Volunteer Resource Center has a number of opportunities open to students.
Center of Student Involvement (CSI): CSI offers a variety of events, activities and social groups for students, including trivia nights, book clubs, bowling and more.

Support services

If you or someone you know is struggling to connect on campus or feeling isolated, there are support services available to help. Here are a few options for finding support:

Counseling & Psychiatric Services (CAPS): CAPS offers a number of mental health and support services for students, including therapy groups, workshops and drop-ins through Let’s Talk.
Health Promotion: If you are struggling with finding a community, navigating campus life or need support, Peer Wellness Coaching is a great free peer-to-peer option.
International Student and Scholar Services (ISSS): ISSS is available to help international students through mentor programs, events, activities and community.
Center for Inclusion and Social Change (CISC): CISC supports all students in the exploration of their identities and creates a welcoming and inclusive space on campus that provides academic and personal growth. You can also connect with them through the Pride Office.

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